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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Illinois Overhauls Child Support Laws

By Elaine Hirsh, Guest Writer
For the first time in decades, state officials in Illinois are considering a major overhaul in the state's child support legislation. An advisory committee to the Illinois Department of Healthcare and Family Services backs the overhaul, which aims to update and modernize the state's current child support laws.

Under current Illinois Law
, non-custodial parents pay a flat percentage based on his or her net income and the number of children who receive support. No special provisions exist based on custodial parents income, nor on the amount of time children spend with each parent. Some officials of the child support division of the Department of Healthcare and Family Services say this system is outdated and doesn't consider the circumstances of many modern families. Not only do criminal experts believe this current system incentivize for non-custodial parents to seek tax income loopholes, it is also unfair to the child who ends up receiving less financial support than if his/her parents had stayed together.

If passed into law, the changes will take into consideration the income of both parents involved, as well as how much time the child or children in question spend with each parent. The basic premise of the proposed system is that children will receive the same amount of financial support as they would have received had their parents not divorced or separated. Supporters of the overhaul claim these changes will be beneficial not only to the children, but to both custodial and non-custodial parents as well.

The proposed plan, which is already in place in 38 states, is based on an "income shares" system. The system will employ the use of an economic table which will outline the average cost of raising a child for nuclear families of various incomes. Unlike the current child support model, the income shares system will take into account both parents' incomes when calculating child support payments. Supports claim this will level the financial playing field for both parents, and can perhaps curtail child support disputes.

As reported in the Chicago Tribune
, Margaret Stapleton, an attorney on the Illinois Child Support Advisory Committee, had this to say about the proposed child support model: "The biggest reason for moving to an income shares model is that it will be perceived by both mothers and fathers as fair to all." Stapleton, who backs the changes, went on to say, "People will see the baseline is what this child needs, what Parent A has and what Parent B has. I think people will see that as fairer".

Those not in favor of the overhaul cite cost as a major factor in their decision. Advisory committee member and family law attorney, Joan Colen, calls the change unwarranted, and says that the costs to implement them would be far too drastic for such little change to the current system. Economic experts hired by the committee agree, saying child support payments wouldn't be altered enough to warrant a complete overhaul, the estimated costs of which are between two and three million dollars.

The advisory committee hopes to approach the General Assembly with its proposal by this spring. If the new system passes legislation, it will take at least two or three years for it to go into full effect.
About the Author:
Elaine Hirsch is kind of a jack-of-all-interests, from education and history to medicine and videogames. This makes it difficult to choose just one life path, so she is currently working as a writer for various education-related sites and writing about all these things instead. She is currently writer for an online PhD website.

85 comments:

  1. State attorneys are appealing a judge's order that favored five fathers who are targeting Georgia's practice of jailing parents who don't pay child support.

    The Georgia Attorney General's office on Monday filed a motion that said there's an "epidemic" of parents who fail to pay their child support. It said the men were jailed because of the "consequences of their own poor decision-making."

    The five fathers claim in the lawsuit that jailing parents who can't afford to pay child support creates a modern day debtor's prison. They want to force Georgia to provide poor defendants with attorneys at child support hearings.

    The men recently won a court battle when a judge allowed thousands of other parents who were imprisoned for failing to pay the child support join their lawsuit.

    http://www.covnews.com/section/163/article/26166/

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  2. Of course IL wants to join the other 38 states that say "It doesn't matter what you make, we're going to charge you twice that any way."

    Harrison

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  3. This system is so corrupt and the attorney's involved are scumbags.

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  4. One thing that Illinois does not require is for the custodial parent to show any accountability - proof that the money they receive for support is actually being used FOR THE CHILD and not used for their own personal gain. With the way the non-custodial parents are treated by the outdated and unfair laws in this state, they deserve proof that their money is used exclusively for the child, and should be given that proof just as they are often required to show proof of what their income is.

    The idea that it is used for "everyday living expenses" of the custodial parent and child are nothing more than excuses for keeping this outdated system in place. For example: the custodial parent's mortgage would be the same every month whether the child lived there or not. And since the non-custodial parent must also pay for a place to live, it is unfair and ridiculous to make the non-custodial parent give money for what the law calls "the child's share" of the custodial parent's housing expences.

    Another excuse used is that the child support given to the custodial parent is for the "child's share" of food costs. But then doesn't the non-custodial parent ALSO pay for food for the child during visitations? But the laws define anything the non-custodial parent provides as "gifts" and will not even consider them as a legitimate reason to lower the amount of support payments. Not even for food and clothing - basic needs of the child.

    Illinois is also stuck on using a flat percentage of the non-custodial parent's income to calculate support payments. This also needs to change, especially in cases where the custodial parent has a higher income. Courts need to look at every case and evaluate the financial situations of both parents, instead of just using the same outdated generic formula every time.

    All of these together are proof that the laws are unfairly biased against the non-custodial parents in this state, whether they are the fathers or the mothers. They will not waste any time in prosecuting you if you miss one support payment, but even if you follow the rules they are still not on your side if you are the non-custodial one. The current system is unfair, outdated, and it's disgusting. It needs to be changed.

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    1. Kevin
      you hit it right smack on the head..
      I was wondering why I found myself in the exact same situation. that you describe. in my case, the custodial parent makes roughly 30k more then I. my son spends every other weekend + Thursday and every Monday with me. I pay 20% = 1/3 of his school/pre-school related expenses. I buy him clothes, food, and toys. I also entertain him when he is with me. I have not been able to afford anything outside the minimal required expenses, since my div. I have not be able to afford to take a simple vacation in over two yrs. His mother has been no a trip to Cancun,mx and a couple trips to Vegas and a couple trips to Wisconsin. She has also bought many new appliances. Parties every other weekend. I can't help but wonder how much of that I am paying for. I don't think that a child costs over 2300/month to raise. this is just obvious one-sided bull sh*t.

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    2. I feel your pain this current system is crazy

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    3. Anonymous,

      I'm a female paying the father who has custody. Prior to 9 months ago, I didn't see my daughter for 3 years, however keep paying my $1400/month. He bought himself a corvette, and had a job less than $40,000/yr. Now, just in the past 3 months, he has a new job close to my salary range. I can only imagine what new materialistic items will be bought. I'm struggling, I need a vehicle when he has 3. The system is to corrupt and needs to be revised. I hope this new laws passes, its unfortunate, my child support will be done by that time.

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    4. Kevin your an idiot. I am a single father and get no support. Raising a child is not easy and because I make more money because I busted my ass and better myself I should contribute more since his mom is a lazy ass who works at walmart? No its called step up to the plate and be a man. Get a second job or better yet go back to school. Just because you spend extra time with your child/children does not mean you should pay less. If you split everything 50-50 in time and all finances for the child that is fine but having to pay for medical bills, school lunches, new clothing, toys, school supplies, etc its not that much to ask for 20% buddy

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    5. Wow single father with no support. Its obvious you are not benefiting from the same unjust system most single women are privy to. Why would he get a second job? That would only mean a larger payment to child support and less time to spend with his child. Its unfortunate you have no help but what you need to do is get the mother to assist in some way either by agreement or court order until she is a willing party in raising your child. Let me tell you if you were not the custodial parent you'd feel exactly the way this gentleman does. Children are raised not only by finance but by love and quality time. EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT SO STOP BEING SO JUDGMENTAL!

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    6. Here here Kevin, exactly. Of the non custodial parents paying in.....This is very one sided in IL>
      New SUV in the driveway, parties every other week. Gifts beyond what I or we ever give the children. The money should be going into a trust or tracked somehow. Definitely a new system need to benefit all sides.

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    7. I have tried every source I can and I figured I would write to explain my husbands situation. He is undergoing a paternity fraud case. A lady name will be private has DNA proof and so does my husband that he is not the father of her daughter.

      At the time when the courts filed the motions against my husband they denied him right to paternity test, denied him right to vacate and denied him right to re-evaluate. He was making below poverty level and the judge would not appoint him legal aid.

      He was in court twice and missed the last court date due to car trouble, but he did call the courts and notify them that he would need to re-schedule do to this situation.

      The courts never quoted his action to attempt to appear in court and made him default father even though he called to re-schedule. The other problem with this case is that the two other court dates that he did make, one they sent the mother home before court had even started!

      The first time they re-scheduled and they had no reason, both parties were there.

      IL law has made it impossible for men to exercise their civil rights and not one person seems to be willing to help or resolve this. The judge did not follow the order of the law. So I consider this FRAUD.

      I am hoping that this will land in the right hands so that we can stop this out rage on the civil rights of men in America.My husband can not afford a lawyer nor will he ever be able to since they took his ability to drive for non-payment of child support when this all started, which has made it near impossible for him to find or even keep a stable paying job.

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    8. Kevin you are so right! That is my situation to the "T"! Illinois is so one sided. I have been so broke that I had no gas service and heated my bath water on a grill in my kitchen!! My sons(3) had to witness that! Ive picked up my sons with ragged shoes and old cloths. Paying 1160 per month in child support I was furious!! All the while my sons telling me about the jewelry and new hand bags. My aunt even saw her on the train with expensive purses. There should be accountability. Its insane how they nail the non-custodial parent to the cross!!!!

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  5. Your not wrong Kevin, but what IL is planning is in a way just the opposite of what your saying. I've seen the combined income table used as a smoke screen more often than not. In most states with this system they have a time frame of years, so if you were making say $100,000 a year and in the last year made $15,000 and face divorce the courts would consider you under employed and base the CS on the $100,000 a year.
    Further more if the combined income is over a set amount ($5,000 a month my state) or below the poverty line the court can set CS as it sees fit and trust a custodial father when I say, seldom if ever is the scale tipped in the fathers favor.
    IL is headed down an even worst road and it's all about the state making a profit on our kids at at least 100% or more.
    When IL passes this new CS table the percentage of parents in arrears will climb, maybe not right off so they all can pat each other on the ass for a great job, but as soon as that is over (I'd give it 6 mo.). The numbers will take off and we're all aware of IL willingness to jail fathers for not being able to pay.
    Harrison

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  6. The income shares model will encourage the custodial parent to quit working.

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  7. "The income shares model will encourage the custodial parent to quit working."

    Which in turn would cause an judicial effort to raise the non-custodial CS payments even more.....

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  8. That's right, the amount they often use is the average income in the state for their age group.
    Harrison

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  9. It should not be the governments place to interfere in these matters.

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  10. Good informative post. Child support is always a major concern for all couples looking for divorce.

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  11. Well I found myself in this situation back in Jan. When my sons mother fail and flat out refused to pay anything for for my sons school and activities that was ordered two years ago. No child support was ordered. I have my son Sun. night until Fri. after school. We both have joint phys and legal custody. The Judge told me that because I make $30k more than she does I should be paying her $900 a month!!! I kept my cool and explain to the judge how stupid that sounds! But not in those words! Basicly he took my side(kind of) and ordered her to pay $10 a week! $43 a month! And she dont have to pay anything else!!! Now the real kick in the face is two days later i was laid off from my job and have been on Unemployment since! And guess what!!! You got it! She has NOT made one single payment!!!! Thank You Illinois for looking out for the best interest of the child!!!!!

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  12. Illinois child support laws are unjust , especially t those that have been taking care of their children financially since the time of their birth....how the hell can they telll me that what i do for my child is a f***ing gift;what a fucking slap in the face . it is unfair to make non custodial parents pay child support when they are already providing for the child financially and emotionally, especially when its the lazy ass custodial parent that wont get off their ass to go find a job o help support the child .... i feel if i didn't sign any papers to get assistance from the government i shouldn't have to pay hey crooked ass' back

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    1. I just want to point out that some mothers actually want to spend time with their kids. I don't work nearly as much as I did before baby. And I won't. And that was agreed by her father and I before she was born. I want to be the one raising her..not daycare or school. Now, having said that, I can get all my bills paid without child support and I think that is a fair idea. I have no problem showing proof of what the child support goes for. And I think that should be available to child support payers at then end of the year. I hate to think that child support payees are buying cigarettes and alcohol with money that should being going towards their child. My ex has never paid a dime of daycare or half of anything she is involved in. And I'm fine with that as along as he is paying his 20%. But i also don't think that it should be any less than that. He has no idea what a child costs! But every penny, blood, sweat, and tear is worth her happiness. Guys need to grow up! If you cant afford a baby then take proper precautions duh!

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  13. If the guidelines are anything like Indiana's they might actually help a father. I went on there Gov. Page and used there guidelines and if I lived in Indiana I would save $150.00 a week because of th time spent with my daughter. Illinois needs it because I have her almost half the year but I still have to pay the full 20%. How is that fair? It is about time they do this.

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    1. So spending time= paying less? What about the custodial parents rent? Does that change since they need to provide an extra room for your guys child? What will happen is hey ill just spend more time with my kid so i can pay less.....save 150 a week wtf is wrong with you? Next time before you go have a child think it out ahead of what it will cost mister

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    2. ^^You sound as if spending more time with the child is a bad thing. Spending time with the child and taking care of the child on a consistent basis in his home sounds like he's still spending the 150 on the child. Of course custodial parents seem to not understand that, they only hear that they are going to have 150 less in their pockets and that's definitely in the best interest of the child. It sounds like you are saying that without the child support rent can't be paid, if that is the case then maybe the child needs to live full time with the non custodial parent or the custodial parent needs to step his or her game up and get an extra job.

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    3. ^^ i completly agree with you...if u cant pay ur rent w/o cs then u are not fit to take care of ur kid and should give them yo the parent who can provide for them...and funny u should say that because what about the non custodial parent they have yo pay for ur bills and still provide a roof over their head and plus any expenses accured while he child is in their care
      .so if u wanna talk aboit unfair u need to re examine the situation

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    4. So spending time= paying less? What about the custodial parents rent? Does that change since they need to provide an extra room for your guys child? What will happen is hey ill just spend more time with my kid so i can pay less.....save 150 a week wtf is wrong with you? Next time before you go have a child think it out ahead of what it will cost mister

      This person sounds like they think they are privileged to money just because they popped out a baby! Get a life! Oh boo who! Why should you get all the money while the non custodial parent is STILL paying to take care of their child when they are not with YOU. Get a grip! Why should you get 20% and the non custodial parent still pay when the child is living with him or her? And I bet you are like one of those dead beat parents who lives with their mom and dad and bank ALL the rest of the money!

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    5. Key term there is the custodial parents rent. It is they're rent. And yes spending more time with your child should mean less child support. No reason to feed your ex while your child is is with you.remember this before you punch out another child it is a child not a guaranteed paycheck from your ex. Get off you lazy ass get educated and get a real job.

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  14. I'm only 19 in school , and working part time 20% is fine right now although difficult with living expenses car payments and school fees I feel as though I be in poverty for ever , but I'm so afraid that once I start my career that 20% flat rate will haunt me
    The whole way child support is handled as whole is a bunch of bullshit revanue machine
    The custodial parent makes twice as much as I do so does that mean if thus new law passes I'd be paying twice as much?
    This is not fair and is so biased

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  15. I agree with almost all of the posts above. I am a young father currently battling the Illinois "Family" Court system. I find the injustices of this corrupt system despicable and appalling. I currently earn roughly $40K - $50K annually, and my son's mother earns around $35K - $45K annually, but I am forced to pay almost $1,000 a month to my son's mother. Tell me how that works out. On top of that insane amount, I have to pay for our son's medical insurance on top of 50% of medical bills not covered by insurance, and 50% of schooling costs, and extra curricular activities. My son's mother and I share 50/50 visitation/custody, so I have my son exactly equal the amount of time as his mother has him. It gets better.... at the end of 2008, my son's mother disapperared for about 4-5 months leaving our son in my care and forcing me to pay child support for all of those months she was absent (the court awarded her the label of "residential parent" in the initial court filing). Then in 2010-2011, my son's mother decided to take on a second job as a bartender, forfeiting her visitation time with our son on her weekennds in which I was still forced to pay the full amount of child support. So for 5 years now, I have had to pay almost a mortgage or rent's worth of child support forcing me to live with my mother at the age of 30, on top of paying for full medical/dental coverage, 50% of medical/dental bills, 50% of schooling and extracurricular activities, and then add all of the food, clothing, toys, and entertainment when my son is with me the 50% of the time along with all of the time his mother forfeited her visitation time. Let's now look at how the mother (I like to refer to her as an egg donor and incubater) hasn't purchased a pair of shoes for our son since he was an infant, and has consistently dressed him in ratty "hand me downs." She also has not grasped the concept of weather appropriate clothing, and I have purchased almost all of his winter jackets and winter appropriate clothing. In addition to all of this, she has had at least 5 different partners live with her at her 4 different places of reseidences over the past few years resulting in police reports, arrests, and domestic violence incidents involving her and her parnters at times when our son was in her custody. She somehow can't buy him nice clothing, shoes, and jackets, but yet she has been able to purchase several large flat screen TV's, a new laptop, XBOX 360, Playstation 3, Wii, Blu-Ray players, and the list goes on. She just gave birth to her second child in which she currently has a restraining order against the father, so of course, she is trying to get more money out of me to pay for the child that isn't mine. The motorcycle she bought with the back child support money she was awarded from me by the wonderful Illinois court system is pretty nice too. I could go on and on about my case, and I apologize for the rant, but I feel that this is a prime example of the injustice of the Illinois "Family" Court system and how it victimizes the "non-custodial" parents, fathers, and ultimately the children. It's been like pulling teeth to get the child support modified, and now my son's mother has petitioned to discontinue my 50/50 custody/visitaion for fear that it will jeopardize her "free money." The judges are too lazy to care for individual circumstances, and the lawyers laugh their way to the banks with the hard earned money of good parents fighting for justice and what's best for their children, only to have those same parents fed to the lions. I still keep fighting though in hopes that myself and all of the other good "non-custodial" parents and mistreated fathers will stand up and bring a revolution to this corrupt court system.
    - Justin D

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    1. You are a duplicate of my case. My ex makes more than me but I pay her to increase her income. Support should not be figured on the custodial parents cars,rent,phone etc.... The parents has to have a place anyway to live pay for electric, gas etc regardless. I have never spent $800 per month on my children.
      Plus the person rooming in the house from way back has the link?! WT heck?

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  16. Unfortunately Justin, your situation is not unique nor rare, this is happening all over the place, it's the status quo and doesn't make any sense in most cases.

    Document everything and use evidence to modify custody. It's a long shot but you never know what a judge will ever do, and you also don't know what will happen if you don't at least try.

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  17. We need one national organization.. it should be easy to conduct we all. Have the same complaints. I share everyones complaints...

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  19. I am new to this blog and find it very unsetteling. I am a mother in most mens shoes and relate to just about everything everyone is saying-- MY STORY-- About 5 years ago I moved from Elburn IL to CA ( where I was born) by the request of my mother who at the time was diagnosed with cancer of her throat-- My daughter who was 7 @ the time was going to school and sharing time between both her father and my house-- After talking with her father we agreed it would be best to have her complete the school year and spend the summers with me in California with the understanding that we she would share custody and time between school year andsummer break-- We talked EVERYDAY my daughtere and i over the telephone--- then three months after I moved to help my mom through her tragic time-I flew to IL to pick up my daughter and bring her to CA for Christmas break-- I then returned her backto her fathers in IL and flew back to CA-- I always cooperated and put her needs first-- A few months I was served custody papers and long story short I WAS GIVEN THE SHAFT-- His parents-- having good health and wealth hired an attorney and took me to court for residential custody-- I flew to IL for all my apperances and was unable to afford representation-- and the judge awarded Me joint legal custody and joint physical custody-- but he recieved the RESIDENTIAL CUSTODY-- I was all at this same time loosing my mother. I am aware I was a fool to let this happen. However I never lost phone contact with my daughter for when we went to court the judge gave me visitation "with in reason" of every other weekend and wednesdays--- YEARS HAVE GONE BY AND THRU THE LOSS OF MY MOTHER I struggled terribly financially and missed many many child support payments-- I am not looking for a pitty party-- this is why I a m being so honest-- and I have since relocated to Indiana and had a second child who is now two years old--- Ive lived in Indiana with my boyfriend for 18 months and they brought her to see me one time ON MY SONS FIRST BDAY PARTY LAST YEAR-- I ask to see her everyday I talk to her yet they will not agree to let me-- My ex(my daughters father) remarried a girl who is unable to get pregnant and wants me to pay them child support for a child they will not let me see-- I am terrified to try and modify this agreement on my own due to the simple fact that the IL CHild support laws are so unfair and unjust-- I really dont know what to do at this point. I still talk to my now 11 year old daughter-- but all phone calls are forced to be on speaker phone from her step moms cell phone--- I recently started emailing all inquires to see her and they have all been ignored-- altho they do respond to my request for pictures of her. Does anyone have any ideas-- or advice they can offer me? My bottom line is this -- I LIVE 40 MINUTES AWAY FROM MY DAUGHTER AND I DO HAVE A VISITAION AGREEMENT SIGNED BY A JUDGE THAT STATES I SEE HER EVERY WEEKEND AND WEDNESDAYS--- HOW DO I GET BACK ON TRACK---- FOR HER??

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    1. take your order with you to the police in the town they live in and have the order enforced also go to court and let them know your ex is not abiding by the order , I had to do that

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  20. I suggest going to the framed forum, there's a link at the top of the page.

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  21. What if the child lives with the mother that is remarried and is a house wife... Should the step fathers income come into play?????

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    1. Never, not his child or problem financially. Stupid question

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    2. Depends on the State. Where I live spouse's income can be used for child support calculation unless you married with a prenup stating the opposite. Quite unfair.

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    3. In my state if u are remarried ur spouses income comes into play if ur the non custodial and ordered to pay child support..so it shld be the other way around too

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  22. I am writing to you about my current child support order, case #10-f-347 in peoria county. I recently found out that i have been falsely accused and made to believe that i was the father of twins that were born may 28th,2000 in Peoria,illinois. the mother (natalie shaw-woods) lied to me in the hospital about the DNA procedure when these girls were born. I signed the birth certificate in the hospital and pretty much since then i have gotten nothing but false claims, false accusations, bogus orders of protections, false DCFS claims, false police reports, visitation denials, refusal to follow court orders and the list goes on and on. On november 24th, 2010 my current attorney and i had a discussion about the DNA, and i explained how she told me OSF st.francis hospital in Peoria,illinois did DNA testing with the girls. I have never had one done and knew nothing about the procedure, and to me everything sounded right. my attorney stated to me that it was not the way DNA testing is done. I then did some research and found a testing lab that does DNA testing and i made an appointment to have one done on myself and the oldest twin on febuary 5th, 2011. the results show that it was a zero percent (0%) chance that i was the biological father of the child. so now things were finally making since to me why she never wanted me to form a relationship with these girls, and why she has made so many false claims towards myself and my family and friends....because i am not there father, i am there sponsor! and nothing more! I also found out from a representative at OSF st.francis hospital that they (OSF) have NEVER done a DNA test and that it is against their catholic beliefs. i am now in a court fight trying to stop all support and end the madness that has been the past 10 years, but she (the mother) is fighting the order because of the almost $900 of child support she gets from me. her reasoning is that "i have paid this long, i should keep on paying!" not once has she address the FACT that i am not there father, or even who the girls real father is! not once has she denied the DNA results because she had planned this from the very start, and at the expense of these two girls who will never be whole because of their mothers lies. I will make sure that is issue is brought to light and addressed! and there differently needs to be changes to these laws! NO ONE SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS! this is parental fraud! welfare fraud! and family child support fraud! and worst of all the abuse, and lies that these girls are being put through from there "mother." She (natalie shaw) hides behind the lutheran synod of missouri and the local lutheran school (christ luthran school of peoria,il) and st.peter’s lutheran church of east peoria,il. The school and church as constantly NOT informed me of those kids parent teachers meetings, PTO meetings and all other activities that I am to be informed of by COURT ORDER! I have never had the chance to form any kind of health relationship with these kids. No one should be allowed to ruin someones life this way.

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    1. Going through the same pile-you have 2yrs from the date you find out the kids r not yours to bring up( child support fraud )charges against her! dont denie being the father! I'm doing it soon myself so good luck do your homework don't trust a lawyer to give you the answers It's not there job, only to do as you say!

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  23. WOW. I thought I was the only one! After reading everyone's post I feel it's only right if I just add salt to the wound. I'm currently in the military as well as my wife...yeah, wife (soon to be ex). Long story short is, we both where stationed in Germany and 30 days before we were set to report to our new duty stationed in NM she changed her mind and got re assigned to Scott AFB Ill. Prior to us leaving we had decided that we were going to pay off all bills starting with here's. Once we paid off all her bills that's when she told me she was leaving. On top of that when the movers came she took the entire house. So I moved to NM with nothing and 13 years worth of debt, while she went to Ill debt free with all our furniture. The kicker is I'm a enlisted E-7 same as her and they got me paying 1500 in CS. I can't even afford to see me kids. The worst part is, as I'm writing this I'm currently in Afghanistan. Since I'm deployed I get tax free, hostile fire pay and danger pay. She's taking me to court for more CS. Since she's in the military she's probably going to leave Scott AFB soon and I'm stuck with this crazy CS payment. She makes more money than me, has no bills, took all the stuff we gathered over 13 years...oh she lives on base so she doesn’t pay rent. Yeah I'm getting screwd!

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  24. i got something for u all they should pass a law that the other parent cant move out of state then take u to court to get child support without them being in court she move from il to georgis with me knowing then wanted child support there should b a law against that she has to warrants for her here in il she shouldnt get it at all intill the warrants r taken care of havnt seen our son since he was 9 months old i my sound like a as but im taking her to court to end child support she wont show up and if they say she doesnt need to b there im g oing to tell them that its a crock of cit if i didnt show up ull proceed without me they need laws were the other person only can receive child support in that state that it they move out tough luck u dont g et it inless the other half agrees to it i can go one with this all day b ut i wont

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  25. There are laws, and I would be happy to talk about your situation on the framed forum. there's a link at the top of this page
    Harrison

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  26. There are laws that protect the deployed. I would be will to try and help on the FRAMED forum. link is at the top right of this page.
    Harrison

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  27. After reading everyone's comment I feel like I must say something. Child support was established because parents were not taking care of there children flat out! We all laided down and made some decisions...our children should not be affected because of our bad decisions. I am a single mother who is not on assistance, gets up everyday and goes to work. As hard as it is to budget and make sure everything is paid on time .... I manage to do that. I receive child support when my daughter's father chooses to pay. And that's not often. I budget my money accordingly if he doesn't pay that throws everything off. If my child is sick I don't have an option not to buy her medicine..When she is hungry I don't have an option not to feed her. There shouldn't be an option for either parent. Take care of your kids. Simple as that . I'm reading so many posts about what the other makes and what the other has.... So what....I don't care about anything but my kid being taken care off. To this day I make sure whatever she needs I can provide, so she doesn't go without. And any child support received is extra. (mine u it doesn't come to often) this is crazy that so many people just don't get it. When these men and some women refuse to pay what is due to there children, when they change jobs to avoid having to pay. That comes out of the child's mouth! do u know that most health care plans drop u within 30 days once u quit a job , so the child has no insurance... God forbid they get sick. Before we say that the laws are fair consider ur part. To the lady who lives 40mins away from ur kid complaining about not seeing her.you choose where to live not her father. It's not his responsibility to bring her to u.... It's the other way around. If there is a visitation order in place they can't stand in ur way or interfere. You don't have to have a lawyer to put in the motion or pay anything at all... Everyone men and women need to start educationing our selves. Afterall it is your children and u r money.

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    1. I agree 100% and I am a male. Since my previous posts have been deleted by the biased author all I can say is it does not matter what the parent of the custodial parent makes, its the obligation for the other parent to pay their fair portion and nothing less because they make less!

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    2. Obviously you chose the wrong man to be father of your children. Given, some men are irresponsible, but its also a given that not all women share enough of the economic burden of having children. If you read carefully, noncustodial parents here are NOT saying they don't want to pay child support, but that it is so high that they are left almost destitute. Why a 10 yr old needs $1,800/mo is beyond me. How much is the mother contributing to his needs when it is more than enough to cover all his expenses? The way the guidelines are written, custodial mothers run a very expensive child care for 20so years. The question is, what will happen to these women when child support ends, and it will. What is in the best interest of the child: that he has all the commodities at the CP's house or that his father can have enough to buy him a decent bed to sleep in when they're together. Maybe a good idea is to leave the father enough money also so that he can save for his retirement so that when he is old, he won't have to burden his own child for money? We can have some solidarity with your specific case, so how about showing some solidarity with noncustodial parents that love their kids and have difficulties making exorbitant child support payments.

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    3. I agree with the above. I understand that every case is different just as you are a responsible working single mother that is trying to do her part to make sure her child has what she wants there are just as many NCP that are trying to take care of their responsibility as a father but also to be able to provide the same things you are for their child when their child is with them. Far to often NCP are required to pay more than they can afford which often cause the down spiral of the NCP to contribute. You stated that a CP can't interfere with visitation but please know they can and do! The only difference is Child support services doesn't assist and state appointed attorneys are not provided so many times it goes untold because a NCP with little money has little chance to do much but take it. The child support system is for the state it is not for the best interest of the child! If a NCP misses a payment why is the child support taxed by the state regardless to if the CP is on public assistance or not? Why is it that if its the best interest of the child that if the mother was on public assistance and gets off that any funds collected majority of the funds are paid back to the state first? What both NCP and CP alike need to do is to be adult about an adult issue and work through child support and visitation issues together because they are the ones that in most cases have the best interest of their children in mind.

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  28. I have a question for anyone who might be able to help. My son is currently going throuh a divorce and they are trying to set his child support based on his salary plus overtime. I don't understand how overtime can be used because it is not something that is a definate income. He might have it a week and then not have it for months but would still be paying 40 percent (he has 4 kids) based on the overtime. I have been told they can't consider the overtime but I can't find that anywhere in writing

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  29. to the mother who had a son with an 11 year old daughter. as annonymous.If you were struggling to make cs payments in the first place why did you have another child when you cant even support the first one?

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  30. Does anyone know if this law is close to being passed and where it stands?

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  31. llinois law also allows the court to suspend deadbeat parents drivers licenses. This law applies to parents who are 90 days behind in court ordered child support.
    child custody utah

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    1. My wife makes well over $100 grand per year. What does she need my money for. The lying Whore left me an ruined my life and took my two sons away from me. I have to pay her 28% so she can buy designer shoes or whatever. I am going to quit my job and work at Starbucks. Screw her and screw the system.

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  32. I am currently going through the same situation most of you are. I was the bread winner in our family and supported my ex while she went to school to be a nurse. As she was graduating we split and she was awarded custody of our three children. I have a new life with a woman who's ex is not in the picture and does not support his children in any fashion. I have taken in the father role for her children which I'm greatful to be able to do. My ex got married and after a short two years is getting divorced. Her family lives in Florida and she wants to move the kids there so she has family support. I was forced by the court to get a GAL in the case because I said NO. I have to pay 50% of all GAL fees reguardless for a choice I did not make. I pay my support to her with no questions asked as I always have. I volunteer to coach for kids sports that I pay for and she allows to quit because its to hard or they aren't interested any longer. I am out this money and I'm forced to keep my obligation to coach. Courts don't care. My children wear Hollister clothes and my daughter wears all Pink Victoria Secret clothes. My ex is asking for more child support because she says she is struggling. She lives in an apartment that is $1800 a month. I have a larger townhome and only pay $950. She said this move to Florida will help the children with school and sitting along with a better life. This move will help her continue to spend spend spend while mommy watches our kids is all it does. My current wife and I work opposite shifts to keep from paying child care. We have managed to rearange our lives to make thing easier and work for us while my ex keeps on her normal routine. She works 3 days a week and two of three are failing in school. In our house my wife and I both work five days a week and her children are A and B students. Court doesn't care. The GAL has now stalled the case because my ex can't pay her portion of the fees. I have to take a day off of work once a month for court to get another continuance month after month. I am representing myself in court because 1. I can't afford a lawyer and 2. Because I have done my research and feel it does not take a lawyer to get this figured out. The state of Illinois is very vague on what child support covers and what a custodial parent is responsible for. I am quite confident the GAL sees through her games and is not allowing her to move. But I believe that I should be reimbursed for my GAL fees if this is the case. I am not the one who is choosing to move and I am not the one who is bringing this to court. Thanks for listening to my rant and let's hope this new system stops all the crap.

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  33. Parenting is more than having the local child support office garnish your paycheck. If you’re not doing your share of the heavy lifting – if the only thing you contribute to your child’s life is that monthly or biweekly check – please shut the entire hell up about what the mother of your children “does” with that child support check.

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  34. I agree! if is a big word and one look at the states. should show you the error of such a blanket comment.
    This is coming from a man that raised our children with custody and did it with the sanctions of CSE in place! TRY IT! Harrison

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  35. Is there any update on this law changing in Illinois? I'm the working Mom with joint custody, but I still have to pay child support to my ex.

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  36. How is it i have had my kids for 5 years without their moms and every since i have had them i have been paying 51 percent of my check towards child support as if they still have them. I have tried everything to try to get them to at lease modify the cases nothing. Even worse with one of them im not even on the birth certificate or nothing i can not get her social security card cause im not on the birth certifacate but they can take money though. How im i suppose to raise two kids that i have in my custody pay for everything we need daily and still pay more than half of my check. I think the only way to resolve anything is to do what they did back in the days. Stand up in fight. Everybody that is involve is going to take us as a unit to overturn this. This supposely new system is not going to work is not that im not being optimistic is that if this is going to work then child support and the court need to be seperate i know it seem like it but they are not. If this child support reform things is suppose to work then this need to be done by people that is currently going thru the situtation. I agree child support should be set in place for Men or non custodial parents that wants nothing to do with the kid by all means tax them. But for men that are there and would do anything for his kids loses half of his checks cause his ex his angry that they are not together its not only wrong but its unlawful. We need real change to this system the only way to do that is join forces. They say its strength in numbers

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  37. Whatever the state call their self doing is not going to help nobody involve except the state no wonder all the people that work for them drive nice cars have nice houses cause of people like us we are being hustle and this new system going to have loopholes in it too to keep the status quo -waatch

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  38. I have been there done that!!! With the Uniformity Act. the government thinks they're tightening the rope, but it makes it easier for we the people to share info.
    Out west we have had IL type support for decades. Join the forum I may have a FEW ideas you could use. Harrison

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  39. Join the forum, I believe you may have a problem that I have already faced in a system that my state has used for decades. Harrison

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  40. I have tried every source I can and I figured I would write to explain my husbands situation. He is undergoing a paternity fraud case. A lady named EVE JONES/BESSER has DNA proof and so does my husband that he is not the father of her daughter CHLOE BESSER. All evidence can be mailed or re-done and sent to whom ever it needs to be sent to.

    At the time when the courts filed the motions against CHARLES HUNTER they denied him right to paternity test, denied him right to vacate and denied him right to re-evaluate. He was making below poverty level and the judge would not appoint him legal aid.
    He was in court twice and missed the last court date due to car trouble, but he did call the courts and notify them that he would need to re-schedule do to this situation.
    The courts never quoted his action to attempt to appear in court and made him default father even though he called to re-schedule. The other problem with this case is that the two other court dates that he did make, one they sent EVE JONES/BESSER home before court had even started.
    The first time they re-scheduled and they had no reason, both parties were there.

    IL law has made it impossible for men to exercise their civil rights and not one person seems to be willing to help or resolve this. The judge did not follow the order of the law. So I consider this FRAUD.

    I am hoping that this will land in the right hands so that we can stop this out rage on the civil rights of men in America.My husband can not afford a lawyer nor will he ever be able to since they took his ability to drive for non-payment of child support when this all started, which has made it near impossible for him to find or even keep a stable paying job.

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  41. Is there an attorney in IL who helps with unfair child support orders and high interest rates?
    I am trying to help a friend who seems to get kicked down and hasn't seen his kids in years since she took them out of state. All of them are almost adults and in my state (MI) we work different.
    Thanks

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  42. I live in another state and illinois has put a hold on my license so I can't renew them how am I supposed to get a JOB if I cant drive to pay my support can anyone help me with this or is there any laws to help fathers like me who do not mind paying support but can't because I can't drive and if i do i get caught and get a ticket for having expired license pay a fine and that's more money gone to the courts

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  43. I am a father of three children, and I am also the custodial parent. I have been getting the run around for support for almost three years. Finally, support enforcement has made it possible to recieve support on a consistent basis without me having to pay a lawyer, go to court, only to be let down watching the biological mother get away with it. It's not the non custodial parets buisness what the money goes towards in my opinion. However, I do believe that each case is different and contains different circumstances. That is how I feel each case should be treated, individually. My ex wife is suppose to have our kids every other weekend and during the summer when they are not in school. She does not honor those visitation times nor can the "system" force her to do so. So, should she pay me more support since she doesn't have them for the amount of time she is suppose to be with them???? Look, support is exactly what it is called, support. If that means it helps pay a mortgage to keep a roof over thier heads, or helps pay a car payment so the custodial parent is able to get to work to do thier part, so be it. So sick of non custodial parents and thier self entitlement attitude about where the money they pay is actually going.

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    1. Self-entitlement? More like you're a leach that expects others to pay everything for you and feel the money other people work for is yours by default. How would you like it if someone came in, took away your parenting rights to the one thing you love more than anything in life, and then, to add insult to injury, took 1/2 your paycheck so someone else could spend it as they please and then told you that you can't see your kid? Sure you wouldn't be singing the same song then.

      The system is a joke and I look forward to the day a government that spends more than it makes and thinks others should do the same, collapses, and all of the divorce lawyers, judges, legislators and other parasites get the same treatment the aristocrats got during the french revolution by all the locked up people that have been screwed over by this insane system.

      Because let's face it; child support is not constitutional. It's an intrusion of the government on the life, liberty and happiness of individuals.

      And I'll tell you what's self-entitlement; it's having a kid and expecting someone else to pay for it. Women not-married that have a kid should be forced with an option: live w/out support or get an abortion. Wives that decide to call it quits should have a choice: live w/out support or stay married (except for cases where abuse is at play but most wives statistically leave their husbands because they don't feel loved or appreciated and yet the system still rewards them for not working out their marital problems).

      It's an absolute joke that the government gets involved in these matters as it does much more harm than good as it gives the custodial parent an incentive to screw the other non-custodial parent over, create unnecessary conflict, which eventually results in the children not getting the attention and love they need.

      As someone who grew up without a dad, I can say for a fact, I would much rather have had love from my father than a paycheck that went to my mom to spend it how she pleased. Why? Because my mom never spent any of that money she received on me or my siblings (spending it on home-improvements while neglecting mortgage payments), and I had to raise myself anyway, getting a job mowing lawns at 9 years old just to get groceries and clothes for myself. And then, to make things even worse, when my father lost his job and couldn't pay the insane amount of support that was going to my deadbeat mom who had custody, he committed suicide because it was either go to jail and face humiliation and a label as a "deadbeat dad" or end his life as a statement to the world that a grave injustice against a loving father had been committed.

      This is what the child support system does to families. It does not help them. It destroys them. It's time for it to go and for the government to take a step back and out of the lives of its citizens.

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  44. As a person who sees both sides of the spectrum... I am a mother who recieves child support but I am also married to a man who pays child support I do see both sides. However my husbands ex has put us through the ringer. My husband works his tail off on the railroad and is never home yet she wants the $850 a month she gets and still gripes about him spending time with his kids. Its a no win situation. Its ok for her to have 1 job that lasted a year in the last 6 years, live off of unemployment link and medical card, sucker another guy into getting her pregnant with twins, talked him into buying a house that she could not get approved for herself, married him 4 months ago and has already filed for divorce and child support. The woman makes a small income off of child support alone. $850 from us (more if they wouldn't have taken what my husband pays in health care into account) and over $600 a month for the twins. RIDICULOUS why is it my husband has to bust his ass but she can have custody of 5 children and not even have a job?! I mean there is something wrong with this cenerio right? Not to mention they have a 9 year old daughter that has been diagnosed with severe atopic dermatitis along with asthma since the age of 2 and we can prove just by pharmacy records that the most important medication she get (from the mouth of the pediatric dermatologist she sees) she hasn't refilled in months which means the little girl isn't even getting it. After she decided to divorce her current husband it has been nothing but a revolving door of men in and out of the house in front of the children. What does this teach your kids? No value for marriage or relationships. And of course when you call her out on it .. its always the same thing "we're going back to court" and "you will only see these kids on your weekend". Its because of this woman that I have an amazing parenting relationship with my ex husband. I could never imagine putting him through what she has done to us. She litterally takes my husband back to court every 1-2 years and this year im not reallly sure what the purpose is because he has not got any raise or promotion. He makes the same amout of money that her support was set at the last time we went back in may of 2011. She has beat my husband down so many times he has just given up. Something def needs to change. I use my support on my daughter. It does not pay my house payment or vehicle payment. It pays copays for Dr appointments, gymnastics (mainly), school functions, clothes and shoes. And should she need anything else.. all i have to do is simply ask my ex husband and he has no problem helping me. They have to be able to provide for their families and have things that they work hard for too. Its not right that she is completely relying on EVERYONE else to finance her 5 kids and self for that matter!

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  45. 2013 and shit hasn't changed! Go Illinois! Make sure we pass laws to give illegal immigrants a DL. Woot woot! Love this states priorities!

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  46. This is just sad. Do you people not understand all of the costs that go into raising a child. It is not just food and clothing. It is keeping a roof above their head and having heat and electricity. 20% is letting you off easy considering that a full time parents spends most of their time and money on that child.

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    1. Do you understand that everyone needs a roof over their heads, food, electricity and clothing, etc.

      If the children were not in the picture, the custodial parent would still need all of those things for themselves. They may need a slightly smaller place, but they would still need them. Of course, the way the system is set up, they act as if the non-custodial parent should not need anything at all, except to pay for their children.

      Unfortunately, the child support system is really not about supporting the children as much as it is about supporting the state. If it were about supporting the children, then anything the non-custodial parent bought toward the children's needs would count toward child support. The non-custodial parents would be allowed to provide childcare in lieu of money if they lost their jobs, instead of almost immediately being threatened with jail.

      Yes, there are many costs that go along with raising a child, but there are also a lot of costs that are unnecessary that custodial parents will use to beat their exes over the heads with. Things like taking them to the doctor for every sniffle after never taking them to the doctor at all, or suddenly enrolling them in every extra-curricular activity imaginable after not being able to afford it during the marriage. I know it's hard to believe if you are an empathetic person at all, but many ex-spouses only want revenge and use the child support system to get it.

      I have a petition on change.org. It is made to truly be in the best interest of the children. It would make both parents accountable for their decisions. This is to make life better for the children. Please sign, and make a difference.

      http://www.change.org/petitions/the-state-of-nevada-change-the-child-support-and-custody-laws

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  47. Just got my letter this morning that she is taking me back to court for her pay raise. Got the same story as most of you. Been divorced 6 years, got a better paying job last year now she is entitled. Our son is with me more than he is with his mother. I'm a fireman and work 9 24hr shifts a month, our son is with me every off day during the week and some of her weekends so she can go out of town, and he is with my mom some of the time i work. I have never missed or been late to get our son if she had him and now it's my time. I provide most all his clothing and she hasn't bought him shoes in years. whenever she does decide to buy him clothes she will text me to ask what size he wears. Have 6 years worth the text saved of can you keep him. This system screws the man that wants to provide for his child and not the deadbeats. It's all a money thing for the leaches (lawers). My divorce cost me 18,562.30 (my attorney fees only) trying to fight for more time with my son on paper. Got the standard but I have him all the time anyway. I'm gonna just pay her the new ransom fee so I can have my son all the time.

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  48. I currently pay child support on 2 children in Illinois. I have a couple of issues with the current law. 1) The lack of cusotial parent accountability for money received. My ex-wife goes on 2 vacations a year, WITHOUT the children. We were able scrape up enough to go on one/year when together. She still has the kids call me for extra money for clothes, car repairs, spending money or money for activities which I am happy to give if I can afford it. 2) There are five people living in her home: Her, her third husband, her child from her 2nd husband, and my 2 children (I was the first husband). Why am I responsible for paying the bills for 5/5 people, when I am supposed to only be obligated to support 2/5 of them? The same was true with her 2nd husband who had 2 of his other children living with them and both she and he were not working-by choice. My children suffered because thier child support was divided amongst all six in the houshold. 3) No matter what the circumstances or how much money exchanges hands, either obligitory or voluntary, the non-custodial parent is always treated like one of the dead-beat dads, so far as the law is concerned. The non-custodial parent has fewer rights than the custodial parent has responsibilities (that would be near zero), under the law. 4) extra money either paid directly to my ex-wife or the children is counted only as "gifts." She calls and asks for a little something more, I send it if I can. Credit: No. It doesn't matter if she says it's for food, mortgage or tuition...no credit.

    I never, do not, nor will I ever have a problem with supporting my children. I do, however, have a great deal of difficulty in supporting a law that in so one-sided and predjudicial, treating every case as the same. I don't know what the proposed amendments say or do. I do know that the current system if full of bulls***!

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  49. My ex gets 2200 a month for one child and my older to kids that i have custody of lose out. The judge does not care about my children first in time. They see me as a disabled vet and a cash cow. I pay 100% of my ex's bills and she has two jobs. When she is working, the child is in daycare, not with me, and i have to pay the bill. Gotta love corrupt mclean county! :)

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  50. Freedooommmmm!!!! No more child support for me and her mother kicked her out as soon as the support stopped and now after 18 years I can see my daughter every day because she will live with me while she goes to college. My daughter called me and asked if she can move in and I was so overcome with joy I cried. If could just sue the court who seemed to think it costs $2500.00 a month to raise a child over these years I would because it surely doesn't cost me that now that she is living with me.

    I kept a savings account for her myself all these years so my daughter has a great start. I knew her mother was a greedy person I just never expected her love for our daughter to be linked to the child support I pay. It was a long hard 18 years of her constant lying to my daughter about me and telling her I only want her to live with me so I can stop paying support.

    Her mother has been retired since the age of 20 and at 38 is now forced to seek work. Over the last 5 years she has tried getting back with me over and over and even tried saying its best for our daughter if we get back together. I used my hate and complete disgust of her as a human being to resist her sexual advances and manipulations because I knew it was a trap to just get pregnant and extend child support until I die.

    I'm 40 and only have one child and I would love to have more but the thought of going through the process again of only having them on weekends and when their mother goes on vacations without them would just break my heart.

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  51. At least most of you get child support! My child's....let's call him donor....hasn't made any wanting to see my 5 year old son since he was a year and a half. When I took him to court for child support and he had to start paying it, he skipped the state and moved to Colorado. He owes almost $9,000 in back and I have called and told the state multiple times where he is and his mothers name of whom he is living with but I am getting no help at all but a "We are sorry but we cannot find him." I wish there was a way to find and punish scum like that.

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    1. Do you live in Illinois? Maybe you are not aware that there is a law that states a person who flees the state to intentionally avoid support can be charged with a felony. This can happen by default after a period of time as they are then presumed to have fled on purpose. If a person is charged with a felony then a warrant can be issued. You then contact the local authorities where he lives and let them know about the warrant. Extradition is a whole other ballgame.

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  52. The thing that I don't like about Child support is one no one ever takes into consideration that having a child is a choice by both parents, and each equally have an obligation to support their child. Also that the parents splitting up is typically a mutual decision. For divorcees to waste so much time of the court fighting about this at all is obnoxious and demonstrates the states irresponsibility and willingness to waste their time interfering with private matters. If you meet and sleep and get pregnant with a child by an jerk at some point that is your responsibility to deal with your actions. And as far as the child their are many poor children with parents that are together and don't get some high class life... Why don't they deserve child support of anywhere from 600-1500 a month? Finally, what about if the non-custodial parent re marries? What if they are happy, adjusted and wonderful parents to not only their non custodial child but their new child/children? There next (non-divorcee) child gets un fairly damaged by the Illinois child support system now because child 1 gets over a 1000 dollars or so of their income and child 2 doesn't even see half that!?!?! Child support puts unintended stress on yet another marriage and the cycle continues of government getting way too involved. Finally, I should say really no one should be crying about the child support system they should be keeping themselves out of it all together... No law needs to tell you that.

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  53. Another good old Illinois law is telling a non-custodial parent how much they will pay for college. My husband and I are happy to his son with college expenses but feel this should be between his son and us, not the government and his mother telling us what to pay. She has kept him living at home so essentially we continue to pay child support in addition to college expenses. As the step-mother, I have been told over & over that I do not matter and have nothing to do with the support my husband paid etc...; however, now that his son is in college, my income is included in what we pay (by the way, my husband paid more than his 20% because of my income regardless of what the courts try to say). This requirement has continued to force my husband and his ex to continue their relationship which is horrible and has created a child who feels he is entitled to us taking care of him until he graduates. He continually tells us (I'm sure coached by his mother)that we have never done enough for him and that we should send him more money for spending etc.... We have bought him 2 computers for school, given him a car but now we should pay for the car insurance, gas, repairs, etc... He works 10 hours/week, even in the summer because he doesn't feel like working more than that. Really? I came from a divorced home and neither of my parents would have found that acceptable. His mother contacted us recently and told us we should be sending more money each month so it can go into his saving account so he has money to start his life with. It is ridiculous, both my husband & I put ourselves through college but suddenly it's a child's right to have college paid for and if his mother had her way, to have a bank account full of money. Couples who are not divorced in Illinois have no obligation to pay for college so how is this not discrimination. The entire Illinois court system and laws are corrupt and out of touch. I hope that someday soon they look at the college law also.

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  54. Why hasn't Illinois adopted the law to calculate the mother and father's income? An involved noncustodial parent, in order to have visitation, has to have EVERYTHING that the custodial parent has. In essence the custodial parent is buying those items twice because they have to support the custodial parent's house hold as well. There is no way to buy half a bed, half a pair of shoes, half a bike; we have to have fruit snacks, coloring books and everything the mother has, so why penalize us simply for being noncustodial, or better yet fathers. We get less time and have to pay more money, when woman make as much and most cases more money than us. It is not fair and law should be passed, because it allows the father/noncustodial, to have a more fulfilled visitation allowing more money to do more activities together. Please reconsider.

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  55. What about the 7 or 9 percent interest the court charge for back support. My husband is paying for back support, but will never be finished paying because of the interest. Where did this come from and who decides the interest rate? What is it for and who gets it? Is this legal? Does anyone know?

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  56. Do the courts in Illinois take into consideration other children in the non custodial parents home? My husband was ordered child support for his son...who actually lived with him and not the egg donor at the time of the court order..she was ordered by the court in 2008 to drop her support claim due to lying about the living situation..,but she never dropped it. We didn't know until a month ago that there was even a child support order at all.
    We have 2 children(mine but his step children whom he supports fully) in the home. Will illinois make deductions since he is supporting 2 children who live with him??

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